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When you are unsure of what to do

What to do.  Where to go.  Shall I or shan’t I?

Do you have trouble making decisions in life?


How long do you procrastinate before you take action?

There are times in everyone’s life when we may be at a crossroads and not sure which direction to go in.  Quite often we know what may lie ahead on each path but yet still we hesitate to go forward.   Life is a constant journey of change and every day will bring new challenges but there are times when we need to make more lasting changes.  This could be connected to many things like relationships, career or moving house.

Looking briefly at each of these as yourself the following:


Am I happy?

What is getting in the way of my happiness?

What does this relationship offer me?

What do I need to do to improve things?

Have I communicated with my partner?


Is this the job for me?

Why am I doing this?

How will being here help me in the future?

What do I need to do to move on?


Do I feel at home here?

Why did I choose this house?

On what levels does being here work?

What can I do to make it feel like mine?

Remember you are in control of your own life and nobody but you can choose your own actions and direction.  However quite naturally its very easy to stay stuck in situations because they become our security even if they are not right for us.

Being in a relationship where you are unhappy or unsure about your partner may still offer you other benefits.  Communication with your partner will help you both to look at any issues or problems with a chance to resolve them.  All good relationships take work and commitment to survive.

The same with career, it may not be your ideal but while you are there use every opportunity to train, get promoted or network with others towards something more ideal.

If where you live is getting you down think about the above questions and take action to improve things.  Your direction may be a trip to your local DIY store or even charity shop to buy a new painting or cushions or even a few candles which can make a house a home.  If however you are living in a neighbourhood which is getting you down or feels unsafe for your family then pull out all stops to move.

No solution will come from indecision.

Affirmation:  I choose my own direction and have the right to change my mind at any time

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