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Brexit – shall I divorce him?

By Andrea Harrn June 22, 2016 divorce, marriage problems, separation No Comments

Brexit is a breaking apart, a splitting up of a relationship which has been together for over 40 years. Like any long term relationship there have been ups and downs, periods of unhappiness and discontent, arguments and conflict. Separation is no easy matter NOR is staying together. The reasons we got together in the first place have been forgotten over the mists of time. Now I feel quite differently towards you and your ever extending family. In fact it feels like I’ve lost control of most of the household decisions and the finances. All my requests seem to be unheard or I have…

What is Conscious Uncoupling?

By Andrea Harrn March 28, 2015 broken heart, cheating, child access, Conscious Uncoupling, divorce, separation, stress over breakup No Comments

Is there an easier way to divorce, separate or breakup. I am often asked when the pain will go, how long it takes to feel better and when life will feel normal again. There are no simple answers to these questions because every person is different and every story/situation too. Break ups are usually traumatic and difficult for all parties involved and there is no magic pill to take the pain away or quicken the process. The idea of conscious uncoupling has been around since the 70’s when Dr. Habib Sadeghi & Dr. Sherry Sami theorised that the problem is…

Ten top tips for assertiveness during divorce proceedings

By Andrea Harrn June 8, 2011 access to children, anger, CSA, divorce, financial settlements, maintenance, relationships, separation No Comments

Going through a divorce or separation can be very difficult and challenging for most people. Being assertive will help you to approach divorce with a positive attitude that can help create an environment where all parties get their needs met. It is not about aggression or revenge, but about the way we communicate and our ability to stand up for ourselves and to say how we feel when we need to. The following TEN TIPS will help you to remain assertive and behave in a way that is effective, respectful and beneficial to yourself and others: 1. Expressing your…