Break Free From Passive Aggressive Behaviour

Break Free From Passive Aggressive Behaviour

Are you looking to break the cycle of Passive Aggressive Behaviour? Are you in a long term relationship that is you seriously getting you down? Are you close to leaving your passive aggressive partner because you can’t work out how to fix things? To say your relationship with your partner is difficult would be putting it mildly. You are sick and tired of being sick and tired and nothing is changing. You are almost at the point of beyond caring. Life seems to go in cycles of peace vs. pain with the painful parts getting far worse each time. Hi, I’m Andrea Harrn,…

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Why healers find it hard to give up on passive aggressive narcissists?

Why healers find it hard to give up on passive aggressive narcissists?

When passive aggressive narcissists form relationships with healers or empaths this can be a highly charged emotional dance.  They will be naturally drawn to each other.  One feels deeply, is intuitive and a natural fixer whilst the other is unemotional, insecure and volatile and seems to need fixing.  By the way not all passive aggressives are narcissists whereas most narcissists are passive aggressive. So when things go wrong and the healer is faced with emotional abuse, physical abuse, verbal abuse and mental abuse why don’t they just walk away and find someone else to save?  Here are some reasons why: Love conquers all Healers…

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5 reasons to stay with your PA partner – for better or worse

5 reasons to stay with your PA partner – for better or worse

For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.  How seriously do you take your marriage vows?  At what point would you say “enough is enough” and walk away.  There is a time in life when you have to seriously consider what you are doing and why you are doing it. You have probably spent many years going through the same repetitive cycles with your partner.  Good times, beautiful times and happy times followed by dark days, confusion, misery and abuse.  The thought of leaving has crossed your mind many times, yet you are still there. Here…

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How to ride the emotional roller coaster

How to ride the emotional roller coaster

The emotional roller coaster can be both exciting and scary.  The highs and lows and the bits in between when you are going round and round in circles can make you feel dazed and confused. boarding the emotional carriage You don’t need to board because you are already onboard and have been for many years.  Sometimes you wonder why you don’t just jump off and start again.  When peace prevails the view looks good.  You are making plans together, looking ahead and your partner seems to be listening to you.  You want to praise them for the things they do well.…

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passive aggressive behaviour and emotional abuse – 3 things to know

passive aggressive behaviour and emotional abuse – 3 things to know

Being in a PA relationship will feel SO emotionally abusive at times that you may consider leaving your partner. Below are three specific behaviours used as PA responses which affect the way you view yourself and your sense of reality.  These destructive behaviours eat away at who you are and what you know to be true.  You can end up in a haze of disbelief, mistrust and confusion.  Your head is a tangle of mixed up emotions and it is hard to think straight. Blame Passive aggressive people have deep rooted insecurity which affects their ability to take responsibility for their actions.   We all…

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7 things you can’t ignore: passive aggressive relationships

7 things you can’t ignore: passive aggressive relationships

  Relationships that are passive aggressive are difficult to manoeuvre.  Here are 7 important things to know  and by the way the PA is probably having just as bad a time as you are. 1   Understand why its happening People that are passive aggressive find it incredibly hard to talk about their emotions.  Rather than owning up to their feelings they behave in such a way that it is hard to confront them about what is really going on. 2   What the silent treatment is saying When the PA feels emotionally vulnerable they shut down, hide and withdraw.  The…

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5 reasons people stay in passive aggressive relationships

5 reasons people stay in passive aggressive relationships

  Being in a passive aggressive relationship is not easy to live with or talk about. No matter what your partner does, staying with them also says something about you.  So why do you stay?  Why do you swing between love and hate? You live in hope that they will change When things are bad between you it feels like the worst thing ever.  You can’t think straight or see straight.   However hard you try to find out what the problem is, you are met with a brick wall.  One way to cope is to tell yourself this will not go on for…

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Passive, Aggressive or Passive-Aggressive – what’s the difference?

Passive, Aggressive or Passive-Aggressive – what’s the difference?

  How does passive aggressive behaviour differ from simple passive or plain aggressive behaviour.  What’s worse, better or are they all as bad as each other. Passive Behaviour Suzie has been married to Gavin for 4 years.  Gavin works in the City, is quite dominating, controlling and enjoys going out for a drink (or two) with his work colleagues at the end of the week.  She is a qualified teacher but for now on maternity leave, with 2 small children.  Feeling under pressure from Gavin to keep the house clean and tidy is hard on her.  Therefore at weekends she likes to make plans to…

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7 ways to recognise passive aggressive behaviour

7 ways to recognise passive aggressive behaviour

The term passive aggressive is widely used these days.  I overheard a conversation the other day in a restaurant when a customer accused the waitress of being passive aggressive because she didn’t smile and the food order was wrong.  Sure, PA behaviour can happen in all sorts of settings but when it happens between two people in a relationship it can be devastating. So how do you recognise the signs.  Below are 7 behaviours significant to the psychological pattern of PA behaviour. Fear of confrontation with your partner One moment everything appears fine but then you decide after some consideration that you…

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What its like living with a passive aggressive partner – you will be surprised

What its like living with a passive aggressive partner – you will be surprised

When you are living with a passive aggressive partner you will not often hear the word “Sorry”.  PAs find it very difficult to ever be wrong and if you dare to suggest it YOU will be sorry. Jean and Bill were having financial difficulties.  Jean had been working day and night to make ends meet for the family. She was a good mum, always there for her 3 children and husband, giving her best.  Bill also worked hard but not putting in the same effort and only doing what he wanted to do when it suited him.  Neither had a holiday in years.  Jean then finds…

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