Why are people defensive?

Why are people defensive?

    How many times do you walk into meetings or interviews to be met by this type of body language.  The arms folded in front are a sure sign of defensive behaviour but this does not necessarily mean the person does not like you. Defensive people are protecting themselves from being hurt in some way.  We all want to stand up for ourselves, be assertive, true to our values and not be seen as weak push-overs.  Communicating our thoughts and feelings is the best way to go forward but this is not always easy in work type situations.  Less…

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What is projection? A basic guide.

What is projection?  A basic guide.

A friend recently asked me to clarify what projection meant.  She was having relationship problems with her husband and feeling confused about her own feelings and the conversations between them. He would regularly tell her she was rubbish at her job.  In fact she was very successful and doing well at work.  He on the other hand was frequently out of work for various reasons including falling out with senior managers and not following instructions properly.  He would also accuse her of being selfish despite the fact that she was the main breadwinner during the marriage as well as taking…

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