Break Free From Passive Aggressive Behaviour

Break Free From Passive Aggressive Behaviour

Are you looking to break the cycle of Passive Aggressive Behaviour? Are you in a long term relationship that is you seriously getting you down? Are you close to leaving your passive aggressive partner because you can’t work out how to fix things? To say your relationship with your partner is difficult would be putting it mildly. You are sick and tired of being sick and tired and nothing is changing. You are almost at the point of beyond caring. Life seems to go in cycles of peace vs. pain with the painful parts getting far worse each time. Hi, I’m Andrea Harrn,…

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Why healers find it hard to give up on passive aggressive narcissists?

Why healers find it hard to give up on passive aggressive narcissists?

When passive aggressive narcissists form relationships with healers or empaths this can be a highly charged emotional dance.  They will be naturally drawn to each other.  One feels deeply, is intuitive and a natural fixer whilst the other is unemotional, insecure and volatile and seems to need fixing.  By the way not all passive aggressives are narcissists whereas most narcissists are passive aggressive. So when things go wrong and the healer is faced with emotional abuse, physical abuse, verbal abuse and mental abuse why don’t they just walk away and find someone else to save?  Here are some reasons why: Love conquers all Healers…

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6 steps to deal with a control freak

6 steps to deal with a control freak

If the control freak in your life is your mother you should be an expert by now in how to be in control.  After all you’ve lived with a control freak your whole life.  You might even have an honours degree in the subject.  However in reality you may very well still be struggling, perhaps not with your mother, but how about the controlling boss, the client or the ex-husband.  If you were controlled and manipulated as a child then its no surprise that others might pick up on that and take the mantle. Here are six ways to take back…

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5 reasons to stay with your PA partner – for better or worse

5 reasons to stay with your PA partner – for better or worse

For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.  How seriously do you take your marriage vows?  At what point would you say “enough is enough” and walk away.  There is a time in life when you have to seriously consider what you are doing and why you are doing it. You have probably spent many years going through the same repetitive cycles with your partner.  Good times, beautiful times and happy times followed by dark days, confusion, misery and abuse.  The thought of leaving has crossed your mind many times, yet you are still there. Here…

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5 tips for self-preservation if you are in a toxic relationship

5 tips for self-preservation if you are in a toxic relationship

Self-preservation is vital when you feel you are drowning in someone else’s toxicity.  Here are 5 tips to help you stay sane: 1  The Art of non-reaction From the profound wisdom of Ashtavakra: Be an observer of what is happening inside yourself to find freedom from the pain of outside influences.  There is no moral value attached to this and it does not mean you are afraid to act.  Have awareness of yourself only and do NOT derive your value from the actions of others.  This applies to positive actions  as well as negative ones.  Be YOURSELF.  Do not depend on…

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What is the most emotionally painful behaviour of a PA?

What is the most emotionally painful behaviour of a PA?

It is emotionally painful when you are a partner of a passive aggressive.  They are angry at you and the way they show it can be very hurtful.  You have upset them in some way and you probably know where it started.  It is also likely to be an occasion when you opened up emotionally and they couldn’t handle it.  Passive aggressives find it very hard to get into their own emotions, let alone yours. Some of the responses you have probably experienced are avoiding discussions, pretending they can’t hear you or going out and not saying where.  All of these responses…

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How silent treatment is used as a defence

How silent treatment is used as a defence

Being on the other side of a silent wall can be extremely hurtful, especially if you are a sensitive type.  Silent anger can feel like a dagger into your heart or a knife into your soul.  When you try to talk or break the silence and you are met with the back of someone’s head or a blank stare this eats into your own feelings of self-worth.  It is so upsetting and confusing that it’s hard to know what do to. Being silent as a form of defence People that feel unable to communicate on an emotional level can feel safe behind a wall of…

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How to reveal the power games in passive aggression

How to reveal the power games in passive aggression

The power games of passive aggressive relationships can sometimes make you forget the past.  Your partner has managed to get you back on side and you are in an almost blissful state of happiness.  Your relationship is back on track.  They cannot do enough for you and you want to believe it will last.  However, something inside you doesn’t allow you to relax.  It’s an intuitive voice based on past experiences and it will not go away.  It feels like your partner holds the power and YOUR behaviour might just change things.  What are the power games being played? Manipulation In general…

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3 links between narcissistic and passive aggressive behaviours

3 links between narcissistic and passive aggressive behaviours

The narcissist is far from passive in their aggression although many moments of quiet planning will precede the onslaught.  I have experienced both narcissists and passive aggressives in my own life and professionally and identify three links. The Fragile Ego The ego is a person’s sense of themselves, their importance, their value and self-worth. It develops in infancy and its role is self-preservation.  In psychoanalytic terms the ego is the conscious sense of identity with an existence of an conscious/unconscious superego to represent conscience and morals (Freud). Who we are and how we behave is very much influenced by upbringing.  When a child…

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passive aggressive behaviour – is it intentional?

passive aggressive behaviour – is it intentional?

I was recently asked this question by a reader: “I read your article about passive aggressive behavior and I wanted to know if this behavior is something that a person can turn on and off like a light switch or is it part of who they are? If a guy was like this with one girl is it likely he will be the same way with another girl or is he only passive aggressive with girls who push his buttons?” Someone who is passive aggressive can for sure turn the behaviour on (like a light switch) when their buttons are…

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