Betrayal and Humiliation

Betrayal and Humiliation

There is nothing more painful than finding out that your partner has cheated on you.  The person that you have spent the last few years with has betrayed you in some way.  That same person that you have loved, cherished, cared for, supported, had children with has let you down. Despite your intuition, finding text messages or hearing rumours,  you are being told that nothing has happened and it is in your mind.  The other party involved is apparently just a friend, a work colleague or a complete stranger. Next thing your partner tells you they are leaving you to find themselves…

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Early stages of bereavement symptoms

Early stages of bereavement symptoms

Over the last few months many friends have sadly lost a parent or loved one.    Death and bereavement are a normal part of the life process but when you are faced with a bereavement it can be very hard to know how to cope.  Or indeed if someone close to you is going through it how best do you support them?  I remember when my own father died some 23 years ago it was one of the most difficult times of my life.  I was one of the youngest of my friends to experience this so didn’t have anyone…

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How do you know when a relationship has past its sell-by date?

How do you know when a relationship has past its sell-by date?

Take the shopping:  When the price is right, the food might still go in the trolley on and beyond the sell-buy date.   Use-by dates are also not necessarily adhered to.   The food may be a bit manky round the edges but the taste isn’t too bad, certainly not enough to throw away.  It is only when there is more concern of greater harm than good do we throw away. So how can we use the same guide for our relationships. In the beginning it all looks good, feels good and tastes good.  The attraction is there, nice packaging,…

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Love hurts

Love hurts

When love hurts there is no pain like it.  We all feel hurt from time to time, choked up , tearful and sometimes confused.  People let us down, surprise us with their actions and or inactions and disappoint. When this happens to us it is a warning that something is not right, our relationship, work situation or friendship.  Honest communication with the other person is always a good step.  Try and find out what happened, is there something you are not aware of.  Try to get to the bottom of it so you can understand. If other people’s behaviour towards…

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