5 tips for self-preservation if you are in a toxic relationship

5 tips for self-preservation if you are in a toxic relationship

Self-preservation is vital when you feel you are drowning in someone else’s toxicity.  Here are 5 tips to help you stay sane: 1  The Art of non-reaction From the profound wisdom of Ashtavakra: Be an observer of what is happening inside yourself to find freedom from the pain of outside influences.  There is no moral value attached to this and it does not mean you are afraid to act.  Have awareness of yourself only and do NOT derive your value from the actions of others.  This applies to positive actions  as well as negative ones.  Be YOURSELF.  Do not depend on…

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7 things you can’t ignore: passive aggressive relationships

7 things you can’t ignore: passive aggressive relationships

  Relationships that are passive aggressive are difficult to manoeuvre.  Here are 7 important things to know  and by the way the PA is probably having just as bad a time as you are. 1   Understand why its happening People that are passive aggressive find it incredibly hard to talk about their emotions.  Rather than owning up to their feelings they behave in such a way that it is hard to confront them about what is really going on. 2   What the silent treatment is saying When the PA feels emotionally vulnerable they shut down, hide and withdraw.  The…

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Is there a link between dependency, codependency and passive aggressive?

Is there a link between dependency, codependency and passive aggressive?

By understanding dependency and codependency you can begin to make sense of why some people stay in passive aggressive relationships. Dependency In healthy relationships there will be a mutual inter- dependency between couples.  You rely on each other emotionally, economically and morally in terms of family and expectations.  Where relationships involve too much one sided dependence and not enough personal responsibility codependency can often be found. Codependency is a learned behaviour that can be passed down from generation to generation. It is an emotional and behavioural condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. Also known as relationship addiction…

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The pain of Codependency and Limerence

The pain of Codependency and Limerence

When you love somebody so much that it hurts it can be one of the most painful experiences that a person can go through.   That person that you see as your soul mate does not respect you, gives you little in terms of loving acts or kindness and constantly disappoints.   Your friends and family tell you to leave him/her and that you deserve better but you don’t listen.  In fact after a while you no longer tell them about what  goes on because you know the reaction.  It doesn’t even make sense to you.  Its not what you thought love would be…

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