What is the most emotionally painful behaviour of a PA?

What is the most emotionally painful behaviour of a PA?

It is emotionally painful when you are a partner of a passive aggressive.  They are angry at you and the way they show it can be very hurtful.  You have upset them in some way and you probably know where it started.  It is also likely to be an occasion when you opened up emotionally and they couldn’t handle it.  Passive aggressives find it very hard to get into their own emotions, let alone yours. Some of the responses you have probably experienced are avoiding discussions, pretending they can’t hear you or going out and not saying where.  All of these responses…

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Early stages of bereavement symptoms

Early stages of bereavement symptoms

Over the last few months many friends have sadly lost a parent or loved one.    Death and bereavement are a normal part of the life process but when you are faced with a bereavement it can be very hard to know how to cope.  Or indeed if someone close to you is going through it how best do you support them?  I remember when my own father died some 23 years ago it was one of the most difficult times of my life.  I was one of the youngest of my friends to experience this so didn’t have anyone…

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How do you know when a relationship has past its sell-by date?

How do you know when a relationship has past its sell-by date?

Take the shopping:  When the price is right, the food might still go in the trolley on and beyond the sell-buy date.   Use-by dates are also not necessarily adhered to.   The food may be a bit manky round the edges but the taste isn’t too bad, certainly not enough to throw away.  It is only when there is more concern of greater harm than good do we throw away. So how can we use the same guide for our relationships. In the beginning it all looks good, feels good and tastes good.  The attraction is there, nice packaging,…

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How to talk to your children about divorce

How to talk to your children about divorce

Can you imagine being a child in the middle of a divorce.  It is a confusing and upsetting time for all concerned and as caring parents the more you can do to help your kids through this difficult time the better. No two people go into marriage with the expectation that it won’t last and of course where children are concerned this is doubly upsetting.  Even if you were the one that chose to divorce it is still a difficult decision to make.  When a marriage breaks down its all too easy to apportion blame.  In reality with two of…

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Love hurts

Love hurts

When love hurts there is no pain like it.  We all feel hurt from time to time, choked up , tearful and sometimes confused.  People let us down, surprise us with their actions and or inactions and disappoint. When this happens to us it is a warning that something is not right, our relationship, work situation or friendship.  Honest communication with the other person is always a good step.  Try and find out what happened, is there something you are not aware of.  Try to get to the bottom of it so you can understand. If other people’s behaviour towards…

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