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Any guilt trips planned for this year?

Been on a guilt trip lately?  Or perhaps you are on one as you are reading this.  Think of all those amazing places you could go to in the world.   Even if you don’t pack a suitcase or leave your house you could be in a much better place right now than the guilt trip.

So you didn’t call that person you said you would.  Will they survive?  I’m sure they will.

So you are meant to put aside an afternoon this week to visit someone that means a lot to you.  Well maybe you want to go and i’m sure you mean well but you just don’t seem to have enough hours in the day.

Did you give more attention to one of your children than the other last night? That bedtime story wasn’t meant to take half an hour, how were you to know there would be so many questions.

Have you spoken to your mother lately?  Did you remember her card and present on Mothers day but perhaps you forgot to send one to your grandmother and your sister did.   Now her halo shines more brightly than yours.

You still haven’t got round to sending thank you cards for your wedding presents.  Ok, its been 2 months now but you’ve been on honeymoon and you still haven’t unpacked and your great aunty has just phoned to see if you received the cheque on the wedding day that was clearly in the card she handed to you personally.

OK, enough now.  Just breathe and take another breath.  You are not a bad person. In fact you do a lot of good things for others.  Didn’t you recently send money to children in need.  You are always there for your friends when they call.  Except if they call when you are watching Big Brother.  You try your hardest to cook properly and you eat raw vegetables.

You know what.  You are a human being, no more nor less than any other.  You do care deeply which is why you are on the guilt trip.  Lets face it if you didn’t care you wouldn’t have a conscience.

So don’t get caught in the guilt trap and definitely don’t go off on a guilt trip.

Tell yourself calmly, over a nice cup of your favourite brew, that you are ok.  You can if you choose put aside time to tell everyone that has packed your cases that you do love them and do care.  You will also tell them you try to get things right but that you are a busy person.  You have a right to your own life and to do things in your own time.


Affirmation  I am a caring human being.  I try my best at all times.  I can relax and take my time

Try reading the guilt, shame and resentment cards and find out more about your relationship with ???   The Mood Cards


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