Brexit – shall I divorce him?

Brexit – shall I divorce him?

Brexit is a breaking apart, a splitting up of a relationship which has been together for over 40 years.  Like any long term relationship there have been ups and downs, periods of unhappiness and discontent, arguments and conflict.  Separation is no easy matter NOR is staying together.  The reasons we got together in the first place have been forgotten over the mists of time.  Now I feel quite differently towards you and your ever extending family.  In fact it feels like I’ve lost control of most of the household decisions and the finances.  All my requests seem to be unheard or I have…

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What is Conscious Uncoupling?

What is Conscious Uncoupling?

Is there an easier way to divorce, separate or breakup.  I am often asked when the pain will go, how long it takes to feel better and when life will feel normal again.  There are no simple answers to these questions because every person is different and every story/situation too.   Break ups are usually traumatic and difficult for all parties involved and there is no magic pill to take the pain away or quicken the process. The idea of conscious uncoupling has been around since the 70’s when Dr. Habib Sadeghi & Dr. Sherry Sami theorised that the problem is…

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Its hard to think straight when going through a divorce or separation

Its hard to think straight when going through a divorce or separation

Breakups are confusing and upsetting – FACT! Difficult for both parties – FACT! How can you be clear in your thinking when your emotions are topsy turvy?  How do you get your point across in a clear and concise way? How can you make sure your needs are met and those of your children too? I’m offering a free training seminar covering these points on Thursday 14th November at 11.30am at the offices of Mullis and Peake solicitors in Romford Essex. Please come along and join a group of other people going through a similar situation and looking to be…

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Divorce is never easy – 10 assertiveness tips to help you both

Divorce is never easy – 10 assertiveness tips to help you both

Going through a divorce or separation can be very difficult and challenging for most people. The following TEN TIPS will help you to remain assertive and behave in a way that is effective, respectful and beneficial to yourself and others: 1. Express your opinions and feelings in a clear way.  Ask the other person what they think and feel too. 2. Be clear about what you want whilst considering the needs of the other party.  This includes stating your position and priorities and listening to the other persons position and priorities. Put yourself in their shoes! 3. Take your Time…

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Ten top tips for assertiveness during divorce proceedings

Going through a divorce or separation can be very difficult and challenging for most people. Being assertive will help you to approach divorce with a positive attitude that can help create an environment where all parties get their needs met. It is not about aggression or revenge, but about the way we communicate and our ability to stand up for ourselves and to say how we feel when we need to. The following TEN TIPS will help you to remain assertive and behave in a way that is effective, respectful and beneficial to yourself and others:   1. Expressing your…

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