The Mood Book

The Mood Book

I am very happy and proud to announce my latest publication The Mood Book.   A book for people who are interested in learning more about how and why they feel the way they do. This book explores the highs and lows, complexities and intensities, as well as the positively joyous pleasures and deepest pains of 21st century life.  It is a collection of moods, emotions, feelings, states of mind and quirks of personality.  Included are some mood disorders, personality types and characteristics to learn more about.  You can read about case studies on eating disorders, relationship issues and work based…

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Break Free From Passive Aggressive Behaviour

Break Free From Passive Aggressive Behaviour

Are you looking to break the cycle of Passive Aggressive Behaviour? Are you in a long term relationship that is you seriously getting you down? Are you close to leaving your passive aggressive partner because you can’t work out how to fix things? To say your relationship with your partner is difficult would be putting it mildly. You are sick and tired of being sick and tired and nothing is changing. You are almost at the point of beyond caring. Life seems to go in cycles of peace vs. pain with the painful parts getting far worse each time. Hi, I’m Andrea Harrn,…

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Why healers find it hard to give up on passive aggressive narcissists?

Why healers find it hard to give up on passive aggressive narcissists?

When passive aggressive narcissists form relationships with healers or empaths this can be a highly charged emotional dance.  They will be naturally drawn to each other.  One feels deeply, is intuitive and a natural fixer whilst the other is unemotional, insecure and volatile and seems to need fixing.  By the way not all passive aggressives are narcissists whereas most narcissists are passive aggressive. So when things go wrong and the healer is faced with emotional abuse, physical abuse, verbal abuse and mental abuse why don’t they just walk away and find someone else to save?  Here are some reasons why: Love conquers all Healers…

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6 steps to deal with a control freak

6 steps to deal with a control freak

If the control freak in your life is your mother you should be an expert by now in how to be in control.  After all you’ve lived with a control freak your whole life.  You might even have an honours degree in the subject.  However in reality you may very well still be struggling, perhaps not with your mother, but how about the controlling boss, the client or the ex-husband.  If you were controlled and manipulated as a child then its no surprise that others might pick up on that and take the mantle. Here are six ways to take back…

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5 reasons to stay with your PA partner – for better or worse

5 reasons to stay with your PA partner – for better or worse

For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.  How seriously do you take your marriage vows?  At what point would you say “enough is enough” and walk away.  There is a time in life when you have to seriously consider what you are doing and why you are doing it. You have probably spent many years going through the same repetitive cycles with your partner.  Good times, beautiful times and happy times followed by dark days, confusion, misery and abuse.  The thought of leaving has crossed your mind many times, yet you are still there. Here…

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What is the most emotionally painful behaviour of a PA?

What is the most emotionally painful behaviour of a PA?

It is emotionally painful when you are a partner of a passive aggressive.  They are angry at you and the way they show it can be very hurtful.  You have upset them in some way and you probably know where it started.  It is also likely to be an occasion when you opened up emotionally and they couldn’t handle it.  Passive aggressives find it very hard to get into their own emotions, let alone yours. Some of the responses you have probably experienced are avoiding discussions, pretending they can’t hear you or going out and not saying where.  All of these responses…

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5 losses of not facing up to passive aggressive behaviour

5 losses of not facing up to passive aggressive  behaviour

When aggressive responses are not verbalised it can be very hard to work out why your partner is so annoyed with you and can leave you wondering for days on end.  There are always consequences of passive aggressive behaviour.  When difficult relationships are not addressed it is usually due to fear of things getting worse.  It is far easier to bury your head in the sand, wait for the good times and endure the misery.  You’ve done it before so you can do it again.  Here are 5 reasons not to ignore this problem: loss of self-respect If you continue to…

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How to ride the emotional roller coaster

How to ride the emotional roller coaster

The emotional roller coaster can be both exciting and scary.  The highs and lows and the bits in between when you are going round and round in circles can make you feel dazed and confused. boarding the emotional carriage You don’t need to board because you are already onboard and have been for many years.  Sometimes you wonder why you don’t just jump off and start again.  When peace prevails the view looks good.  You are making plans together, looking ahead and your partner seems to be listening to you.  You want to praise them for the things they do well.…

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How to reveal the power games in passive aggression

How to reveal the power games in passive aggression

The power games of passive aggressive relationships can sometimes make you forget the past.  Your partner has managed to get you back on side and you are in an almost blissful state of happiness.  Your relationship is back on track.  They cannot do enough for you and you want to believe it will last.  However, something inside you doesn’t allow you to relax.  It’s an intuitive voice based on past experiences and it will not go away.  It feels like your partner holds the power and YOUR behaviour might just change things.  What are the power games being played? Manipulation In general…

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passive aggressive behaviour – is it intentional?

passive aggressive behaviour – is it intentional?

I was recently asked this question by a reader: “I read your article about passive aggressive behavior and I wanted to know if this behavior is something that a person can turn on and off like a light switch or is it part of who they are? If a guy was like this with one girl is it likely he will be the same way with another girl or is he only passive aggressive with girls who push his buttons?” Someone who is passive aggressive can for sure turn the behaviour on (like a light switch) when their buttons are…

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