passive aggressive behaviour – is it intentional?

passive aggressive behaviour – is it intentional?

I was recently asked this question by a reader: “I read your article about passive aggressive behavior and I wanted to know if this behavior is something that a person can turn on and off like a light switch or is it part of who they are? If a guy was like this with one girl is it likely he will be the same way with another girl or is he only passive aggressive with girls who push his buttons?” Someone who is passive aggressive can for sure turn the behaviour on (like a light switch) when their buttons are…

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Betrayal and Humiliation

Betrayal and Humiliation

There is nothing more painful than finding out that your partner has cheated on you.  The person that you have spent the last few years with has betrayed you in some way.  That same person that you have loved, cherished, cared for, supported, had children with has let you down. Despite your intuition, finding text messages or hearing rumours,  you are being told that nothing has happened and it is in your mind.  The other party involved is apparently just a friend, a work colleague or a complete stranger. Next thing your partner tells you they are leaving you to find themselves…

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How do you know when a relationship has past its sell-by date?

How do you know when a relationship has past its sell-by date?

Take the shopping:  When the price is right, the food might still go in the trolley on and beyond the sell-buy date.   Use-by dates are also not necessarily adhered to.   The food may be a bit manky round the edges but the taste isn’t too bad, certainly not enough to throw away.  It is only when there is more concern of greater harm than good do we throw away. So how can we use the same guide for our relationships. In the beginning it all looks good, feels good and tastes good.  The attraction is there, nice packaging,…

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Solution Focused Relationship Counselling

Relationship counselling helps you to make the most of your relationships, past, present or future. Our relationships and the way we relate to people are key sources of happiness and when things go wrong this can lead to stress, anxiety, depression and feelings of low self-worth. Furthermore if not addressed it can eventually lead to relationship breakdown. Our first relationships start in the family and our early experiences are likely to influence the ways that we relate to others throughout our life. In relationship counselling I work with you to understand what is going on currently between you, why this…

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