Break Free From Passive Aggressive Behaviour

Break Free From Passive Aggressive Behaviour

Are you looking to break the cycle of Passive Aggressive Behaviour? Are you in a long term relationship that is you seriously getting you down? Are you close to leaving your passive aggressive partner because you can’t work out how to fix things? To say your relationship with your partner is difficult would be putting it mildly. You are sick and tired of being sick and tired and nothing is changing. You are almost at the point of beyond caring. Life seems to go in cycles of peace vs. pain with the painful parts getting far worse each time. Hi, I’m Andrea Harrn,…

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5 ways to recognise a control freak

5 ways to recognise a control freak

The control freak needs order in their lives and to achieve this regularly behaves in ways that are  annoying, belittling and frustrating to others.  Take the boss who micro-manages everything you do, the wife who needs the house arranged in a certain way or the boyfriend who likes you to dress to please him.  Can you imagine having to dance to someone else’s call. The control freak is insecure and to boost their sense of security attempts to keep things safe and structured by modelling the world around them into their view. To do this they pull your strings which doesn’t leave much…

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Why healers find it hard to give up on passive aggressive narcissists?

Why healers find it hard to give up on passive aggressive narcissists?

When passive aggressive narcissists form relationships with healers or empaths this can be a highly charged emotional dance.  They will be naturally drawn to each other.  One feels deeply, is intuitive and a natural fixer whilst the other is unemotional, insecure and volatile and seems to need fixing.  By the way not all passive aggressives are narcissists whereas most narcissists are passive aggressive. So when things go wrong and the healer is faced with emotional abuse, physical abuse, verbal abuse and mental abuse why don’t they just walk away and find someone else to save?  Here are some reasons why: Love conquers all Healers…

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5 tips for self-preservation if you are in a toxic relationship

5 tips for self-preservation if you are in a toxic relationship

Self-preservation is vital when you feel you are drowning in someone else’s toxicity.  Here are 5 tips to help you stay sane: 1  The Art of non-reaction From the profound wisdom of Ashtavakra: Be an observer of what is happening inside yourself to find freedom from the pain of outside influences.  There is no moral value attached to this and it does not mean you are afraid to act.  Have awareness of yourself only and do NOT derive your value from the actions of others.  This applies to positive actions  as well as negative ones.  Be YOURSELF.  Do not depend on…

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What is the most emotionally painful behaviour of a PA?

What is the most emotionally painful behaviour of a PA?

It is emotionally painful when you are a partner of a passive aggressive.  They are angry at you and the way they show it can be very hurtful.  You have upset them in some way and you probably know where it started.  It is also likely to be an occasion when you opened up emotionally and they couldn’t handle it.  Passive aggressives find it very hard to get into their own emotions, let alone yours. Some of the responses you have probably experienced are avoiding discussions, pretending they can’t hear you or going out and not saying where.  All of these responses…

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