Why healers find it hard to give up on passive aggressive narcissists?

Why healers find it hard to give up on passive aggressive narcissists?

When passive aggressive narcissists form relationships with healers or empaths this can be a highly charged emotional dance.  They will be naturally drawn to each other.  One feels deeply, is intuitive and a natural fixer whilst the other is unemotional, insecure and volatile and seems to need fixing.  By the way not all passive aggressives are narcissists whereas most narcissists are passive aggressive. So when things go wrong and the healer is faced with emotional abuse, physical abuse, verbal abuse and mental abuse why don’t they just walk away and find someone else to save?  Here are some reasons why: Love conquers all Healers…

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5 reasons to stay with your PA partner – for better or worse

5 reasons to stay with your PA partner – for better or worse

For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.  How seriously do you take your marriage vows?  At what point would you say “enough is enough” and walk away.  There is a time in life when you have to seriously consider what you are doing and why you are doing it. You have probably spent many years going through the same repetitive cycles with your partner.  Good times, beautiful times and happy times followed by dark days, confusion, misery and abuse.  The thought of leaving has crossed your mind many times, yet you are still there. Here…

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Betrayal and Humiliation

Betrayal and Humiliation

There is nothing more painful than finding out that your partner has cheated on you.  The person that you have spent the last few years with has betrayed you in some way.  That same person that you have loved, cherished, cared for, supported, had children with has let you down. Despite your intuition, finding text messages or hearing rumours,  you are being told that nothing has happened and it is in your mind.  The other party involved is apparently just a friend, a work colleague or a complete stranger. Next thing your partner tells you they are leaving you to find themselves…

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The pain of Codependency and Limerence

The pain of Codependency and Limerence

When you love somebody so much that it hurts it can be one of the most painful experiences that a person can go through.   That person that you see as your soul mate does not respect you, gives you little in terms of loving acts or kindness and constantly disappoints.   Your friends and family tell you to leave him/her and that you deserve better but you don’t listen.  In fact after a while you no longer tell them about what  goes on because you know the reaction.  It doesn’t even make sense to you.  Its not what you thought love would be…

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The greatest gift at Xmas – suitable for all ages

The greatest gift at Xmas – suitable for all ages

So much  pressure at Xmas time.  Parents putting themselves under stress to create a magical time for their children.   TV advertising and expectations to provide far more than what a child needs or for that matter what any of  us need.    Music blaring out at the supermarket tills, even in the gym today.  “Have yourself a merry little Xmas”  “May all your Christmases be white”.  There is an conscious and unconscious need to re-create an ideal of a time long gone  by.  But in those days past there were no computer games or iPads.  Children were happy with…

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How do you know when a relationship has past its sell-by date?

How do you know when a relationship has past its sell-by date?

Take the shopping:  When the price is right, the food might still go in the trolley on and beyond the sell-buy date.   Use-by dates are also not necessarily adhered to.   The food may be a bit manky round the edges but the taste isn’t too bad, certainly not enough to throw away.  It is only when there is more concern of greater harm than good do we throw away. So how can we use the same guide for our relationships. In the beginning it all looks good, feels good and tastes good.  The attraction is there, nice packaging,…

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What is Love?

Love means many things to many people: Romantic Poetic Togetherness Never having to say your sorry Looking away Kind and caring Forgiveness All you need Acceptance Music to my ears Unconditional Positive Regard Dependency on another or Interdependency A powerful healing energy that flows from the heart chakra A natural biological response to our childrenchallenging Freedom to be A feeling of warmth towards a stranger My other half Addictive Channelled from Divine source A dance Intimacy Mindgames Bonding Who I am Powerful Winter Flowers What I’m waiting for Giving to another A universal energy Nature The answer The Sun, The…

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Who is responsible for a suicide?

Is there anyone close to you that has become quieter more recently, upset, depressed, shutting themselves off, not talking or perhaps behaving out of character. It is a sad fact that each year there are many people who take their own life (5,608 in the UK in 2010) or come near to it with suicidal thoughts. The sad news of Nurse Jacintha Saldanha, who committed suicide after falling for a prank call involving Kate Middleton, has left a sadness in so many hearts and my sincere condolences go out to her family and friends. Investigations are underway about the events leading up…

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When was the last time you unleashed your Joy?

When was the last time you unleashed your Joy?

When I saw this painting this morning it really touched me. The first thing I noticed were the butterflies which I always feel drawn to. The butterfly is a symbol of change. The first butterfly I noticed was the green one close to the heart area. How many of us live life with closed hearts, defending ourselves from previous hurts, slights, judgments, rejections and pain. Unfortunately when things go wrong our natural default mechanism is to be wary; to hold ourselves back, to keep ourselves safe. We condition ourselves to believe that things will always be a certain way or…

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