Forgiveness: How do you forgive someone that has hurt you?

Forgiveness: How do you forgive someone that has hurt you?

How do I forgive?  How do I let go?  These questions are often asked to me in the therapy room.   When someone you love hurts you in some way it is very hard to come to terms with.  It is easier to let go when that person is not so close, such as a work colleague or an acquaintance.   We can take the view that we don’t really need them in our life or even like them that much.  Its easier to see them as a negative person or difficult to get along with.  For example a work place…

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The benefits of Gratitude

We are coming towards the end of the year and with the festive season approaching it is a time to reflect about all that is good in our lives. Its so easy to get caught up buying presents, worrying about one day that is meant to be perfect.  Being the perfect mother, daughter, wife, father, son or brother.   Will Uncle Fred like his socks?  Will mum appreciate that jumper I’ve bought her or return it in the January sales? This is a good time to step back from stress and worries. Its the small things in life that matter…

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When was the last time you unleashed your Joy?

When was the last time you unleashed your Joy?

When I saw this painting this morning it really touched me. The first thing I noticed were the butterflies which I always feel drawn to. The butterfly is a symbol of change. The first butterfly I noticed was the green one close to the heart area. How many of us live life with closed hearts, defending ourselves from previous hurts, slights, judgments, rejections and pain. Unfortunately when things go wrong our natural default mechanism is to be wary; to hold ourselves back, to keep ourselves safe. We condition ourselves to believe that things will always be a certain way or…

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