Forgiveness: How do you forgive someone that has hurt you?

Forgiveness: How do you forgive someone that has hurt you?

How do I forgive?  How do I let go?  These questions are often asked to me in the therapy room.   When someone you love hurts you in some way it is very hard to come to terms with.  It is easier to let go when that person is not so close, such as a work colleague or an acquaintance.   We can take the view that we don’t really need them in our life or even like them that much.  Its easier to see them as a negative person or difficult to get along with.  For example a work place…

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Is it ok to be a people pleaser?

Is it ok to be a people pleaser?

I was recently talking to a friend about her relationship with her husband.  She said she knows how to keep him sweet.  She praises him (even when she’s angry).  She doesn’t ask him to help her in the house because she knows that upsets him.  When he does things that she does not agree with she keeps her mouth shut.  She does not want to rock the boat by  upsetting him.  I asked her why?  What stops her from being honest and this is what she told me. “I want a quiet life.   I let things go because I…

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A dozen way to clear resentments

 When we hold onto resentments we are holding on to negative emotional blocks.    Holding onto negativity is counter-productive to leading a happy, calm, conflict free, positive life.   Negativity is draining.  Imagine you are holding all your resentments in a  bag.  How large would it be?  Do you really want to continue carrying it? Make a commitment to yourself to release resentments and acknowledge that every circumstance that presents itself to us gives us an opportunity for learning and growth. Below are 12 suggested ways to clear the resentments you have: 1.    Find time to think about the resentments you hold. Make…

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