Being a parent: 360 degree feedback

Being a parent: 360 degree feedback

Being a parent is a wonderful gift but can also be challenging and demanding.  Have you ever asked your kids how they think you are doing as a parent. A friend of mine Kay recently asked her 15 year old daughter how she was doing as a mother and was interested to hear the response.     She was told she shouts  and waves her arms about a lot.  She wakes up every day moaning how busy she is but seems to spend a lot of time watching catch up TV.   At first Kay was surprised to hear this.…

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How do you know when a relationship has past its sell-by date?

How do you know when a relationship has past its sell-by date?

Take the shopping:  When the price is right, the food might still go in the trolley on and beyond the sell-buy date.   Use-by dates are also not necessarily adhered to.   The food may be a bit manky round the edges but the taste isn’t too bad, certainly not enough to throw away.  It is only when there is more concern of greater harm than good do we throw away. So how can we use the same guide for our relationships. In the beginning it all looks good, feels good and tastes good.  The attraction is there, nice packaging,…

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Why successful people have therapy

Why successful people have therapy

With the sad news today of the death of the wonderful actor James Gandolfini it got me to thinking about how many times my own clients have told me they have felt like Tony Soprano in the therapy room.  Tony was the mafia boss so wonderfully portrayed by James in the six series of the Sopranos.  Tony and his therapist had that kind of relationship that is essential to good therapy.  He would tell her all the gory details of his rise to power and his everyday problems of being a mafia boss and she would help him explore his thoughts…

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