5 reasons not to argue by text

5 reasons not to argue by text

How many times do you have arguments by text.  I was talking to a colleague the other day who refuses to engage in this kind of conflict.  As she so rightly pointed out, once something is in writing there’s no taking it back. In arguments we might say things we would not normally say, hurtful things or attacking comments.  We sometimes blame others when things go wrong before we have had a chance to think things through.  Then the arguments start, you said, he said and she said.  Feelings can explode in an unhelpful way. Now I’m not saying it isn’t…

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Is it ok to be a people pleaser?

Is it ok to be a people pleaser?

I was recently talking to a friend about her relationship with her husband.  She said she knows how to keep him sweet.  She praises him (even when she’s angry).  She doesn’t ask him to help her in the house because she knows that upsets him.  When he does things that she does not agree with she keeps her mouth shut.  She does not want to rock the boat by  upsetting him.  I asked her why?  What stops her from being honest and this is what she told me. “I want a quiet life.   I let things go because I…

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How to talk to your children about divorce

How to talk to your children about divorce

Can you imagine being a child in the middle of a divorce.  It is a confusing and upsetting time for all concerned and as caring parents the more you can do to help your kids through this difficult time the better. No two people go into marriage with the expectation that it won’t last and of course where children are concerned this is doubly upsetting.  Even if you were the one that chose to divorce it is still a difficult decision to make.  When a marriage breaks down its all too easy to apportion blame.  In reality with two of…

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A dozen way to clear resentments

 When we hold onto resentments we are holding on to negative emotional blocks.    Holding onto negativity is counter-productive to leading a happy, calm, conflict free, positive life.   Negativity is draining.  Imagine you are holding all your resentments in a  bag.  How large would it be?  Do you really want to continue carrying it? Make a commitment to yourself to release resentments and acknowledge that every circumstance that presents itself to us gives us an opportunity for learning and growth. Below are 12 suggested ways to clear the resentments you have: 1.    Find time to think about the resentments you hold. Make…

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