What is Conscious Uncoupling?

What is Conscious Uncoupling?

Is there an easier way to divorce, separate or breakup.  I am often asked when the pain will go, how long it takes to feel better and when life will feel normal again.  There are no simple answers to these questions because every person is different and every story/situation too.   Break ups are usually traumatic and difficult for all parties involved and there is no magic pill to take the pain away or quicken the process. The idea of conscious uncoupling has been around since the 70’s when Dr. Habib Sadeghi & Dr. Sherry Sami theorised that the problem is…

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The pain of Codependency and Limerence

The pain of Codependency and Limerence

When you love somebody so much that it hurts it can be one of the most painful experiences that a person can go through.   That person that you see as your soul mate does not respect you, gives you little in terms of loving acts or kindness and constantly disappoints.   Your friends and family tell you to leave him/her and that you deserve better but you don’t listen.  In fact after a while you no longer tell them about what  goes on because you know the reaction.  It doesn’t even make sense to you.  Its not what you thought love would be…

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Early stages of bereavement symptoms

Early stages of bereavement symptoms

Over the last few months many friends have sadly lost a parent or loved one.    Death and bereavement are a normal part of the life process but when you are faced with a bereavement it can be very hard to know how to cope.  Or indeed if someone close to you is going through it how best do you support them?  I remember when my own father died some 23 years ago it was one of the most difficult times of my life.  I was one of the youngest of my friends to experience this so didn’t have anyone…

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How do you know when a relationship has past its sell-by date?

How do you know when a relationship has past its sell-by date?

Take the shopping:  When the price is right, the food might still go in the trolley on and beyond the sell-buy date.   Use-by dates are also not necessarily adhered to.   The food may be a bit manky round the edges but the taste isn’t too bad, certainly not enough to throw away.  It is only when there is more concern of greater harm than good do we throw away. So how can we use the same guide for our relationships. In the beginning it all looks good, feels good and tastes good.  The attraction is there, nice packaging,…

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How to talk to your children about divorce

How to talk to your children about divorce

Can you imagine being a child in the middle of a divorce.  It is a confusing and upsetting time for all concerned and as caring parents the more you can do to help your kids through this difficult time the better. No two people go into marriage with the expectation that it won’t last and of course where children are concerned this is doubly upsetting.  Even if you were the one that chose to divorce it is still a difficult decision to make.  When a marriage breaks down its all too easy to apportion blame.  In reality with two of…

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Love hurts

Love hurts

When love hurts there is no pain like it.  We all feel hurt from time to time, choked up , tearful and sometimes confused.  People let us down, surprise us with their actions and or inactions and disappoint. When this happens to us it is a warning that something is not right, our relationship, work situation or friendship.  Honest communication with the other person is always a good step.  Try and find out what happened, is there something you are not aware of.  Try to get to the bottom of it so you can understand. If other people’s behaviour towards…

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