How do you know when a relationship has past its sell-by date?

How do you know when a relationship has past its sell-by date?

Take the shopping:  When the price is right, the food might still go in the trolley on and beyond the sell-buy date.   Use-by dates are also not necessarily adhered to.   The food may be a bit manky round the edges but the taste isn’t too bad, certainly not enough to throw away.  It is only when there is more concern of greater harm than good do we throw away. So how can we use the same guide for our relationships. In the beginning it all looks good, feels good and tastes good.  The attraction is there, nice packaging,…

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How to talk to your children about divorce

How to talk to your children about divorce

Can you imagine being a child in the middle of a divorce.  It is a confusing and upsetting time for all concerned and as caring parents the more you can do to help your kids through this difficult time the better. No two people go into marriage with the expectation that it won’t last and of course where children are concerned this is doubly upsetting.  Even if you were the one that chose to divorce it is still a difficult decision to make.  When a marriage breaks down its all too easy to apportion blame.  In reality with two of…

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Divorce is never easy – 10 assertiveness tips to help you both

Divorce is never easy – 10 assertiveness tips to help you both

Going through a divorce or separation can be very difficult and challenging for most people. The following TEN TIPS will help you to remain assertive and behave in a way that is effective, respectful and beneficial to yourself and others: 1. Express your opinions and feelings in a clear way.  Ask the other person what they think and feel too. 2. Be clear about what you want whilst considering the needs of the other party.  This includes stating your position and priorities and listening to the other persons position and priorities. Put yourself in their shoes! 3. Take your Time…

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Ten top tips for assertiveness during divorce proceedings

Going through a divorce or separation can be very difficult and challenging for most people. Being assertive will help you to approach divorce with a positive attitude that can help create an environment where all parties get their needs met. It is not about aggression or revenge, but about the way we communicate and our ability to stand up for ourselves and to say how we feel when we need to. The following TEN TIPS will help you to remain assertive and behave in a way that is effective, respectful and beneficial to yourself and others:   1. Expressing your…

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