5 ways to recognise a control freak

5 ways to recognise a control freak

The control freak needs order in their lives and to achieve this regularly behaves in ways that are  annoying, belittling and frustrating to others.  Take the boss who micro-manages everything you do, the wife who needs the house arranged in a certain way or the boyfriend who likes you to dress to please him.  Can you imagine having to dance to someone else’s call. The control freak is insecure and to boost their sense of security attempts to keep things safe and structured by modelling the world around them into their view. To do this they pull your strings which doesn’t leave much…

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Three girls – who is responsible?

Three girls – who is responsible?

Did you watch the recent TV series Three Girls about the scandal in Rochdale involving under age girls being trafficked and sexually abused.  It was quite shocking actually but the thing that upset me the most, and has been playing on my mind since, is what happened to cause those girls to end up where they did. The girls found comfort in the local kebab shop, where they were fed and given a place to play, jump around and be children.  They felt cared for, looked after and safe.  This was before it all started to go wrong, when the men…

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Why healers find it hard to give up on passive aggressive narcissists?

Why healers find it hard to give up on passive aggressive narcissists?

When passive aggressive narcissists form relationships with healers or empaths this can be a highly charged emotional dance.  They will be naturally drawn to each other.  One feels deeply, is intuitive and a natural fixer whilst the other is unemotional, insecure and volatile and seems to need fixing.  By the way not all passive aggressives are narcissists whereas most narcissists are passive aggressive. So when things go wrong and the healer is faced with emotional abuse, physical abuse, verbal abuse and mental abuse why don’t they just walk away and find someone else to save?  Here are some reasons why: Love conquers all Healers…

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