Is there a link between dependency, codependency and passive aggressive?

Is there a link between dependency, codependency and passive aggressive?

By understanding dependency and codependency you can begin to make sense of why some people stay in passive aggressive relationships. Dependency In healthy relationships there will be a mutual inter- dependency between couples.  You rely on each other emotionally, economically and morally in terms of family and expectations.  Where relationships involve too much one sided dependence and not enough personal responsibility codependency can often be found. Codependency is a learned behaviour that can be passed down from generation to generation. It is an emotional and behavioural condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. Also known as relationship addiction…

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5 reasons people stay in passive aggressive relationships

5 reasons people stay in passive aggressive relationships

  Being in a passive aggressive relationship is not easy to live with or talk about. No matter what your partner does, staying with them also says something about you.  So why do you stay?  Why do you swing between love and hate? You live in hope that they will change When things are bad between you it feels like the worst thing ever.  You can’t think straight or see straight.   However hard you try to find out what the problem is, you are met with a brick wall.  One way to cope is to tell yourself this will not go on for…

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Passive, Aggressive or Passive-Aggressive – what’s the difference?

Passive, Aggressive or Passive-Aggressive – what’s the difference?

  How does passive aggressive behaviour differ from simple passive or plain aggressive behaviour.  What’s worse, better or are they all as bad as each other. Passive Behaviour Suzie has been married to Gavin for 4 years.  Gavin works in the City, is quite dominating, controlling and enjoys going out for a drink (or two) with his work colleagues at the end of the week.  She is a qualified teacher but for now on maternity leave, with 2 small children.  Feeling under pressure from Gavin to keep the house clean and tidy is hard on her.  Therefore at weekends she likes to make plans to…

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7 ways to recognise passive aggressive behaviour

7 ways to recognise passive aggressive behaviour

The term passive aggressive is widely used these days.  I overheard a conversation the other day in a restaurant when a customer accused the waitress of being passive aggressive because she didn’t smile and the food order was wrong.  Sure, PA behaviour can happen in all sorts of settings but when it happens between two people in a relationship it can be devastating. So how do you recognise the signs.  Below are 7 behaviours significant to the psychological pattern of PA behaviour. Fear of confrontation with your partner One moment everything appears fine but then you decide after some consideration that you…

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What its like living with a passive aggressive partner – you will be surprised

What its like living with a passive aggressive partner – you will be surprised

When you are living with a passive aggressive partner you will not often hear the word “Sorry”.  PAs find it very difficult to ever be wrong and if you dare to suggest it YOU will be sorry. Jean and Bill were having financial difficulties.  Jean had been working day and night to make ends meet for the family. She was a good mum, always there for her 3 children and husband, giving her best.  Bill also worked hard but not putting in the same effort and only doing what he wanted to do when it suited him.  Neither had a holiday in years.  Jean then finds…

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