What is projection? A basic guide.

What is projection?  A basic guide.

A friend recently asked me to clarify what projection meant.  She was having relationship problems with her husband and feeling confused about her own feelings and the conversations between them. He would regularly tell her she was rubbish at her job.  In fact she was very successful and doing well at work.  He on the other hand was frequently out of work for various reasons including falling out with senior managers and not following instructions properly.  He would also accuse her of being selfish despite the fact that she was the main breadwinner during the marriage as well as taking…

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I’m always tidying up. Is this OCD?

I’m always tidying up.  Is this OCD?

So you tidy up a lot, you like all your food tins to be facing the same way and you double check you have locked the door at least twice before you leave the house.  You laugh at yourself quite readily in front of friends and when your partner calls you OCD you kind of agree with him. How many people do you know right now in your life who describe themselves or others as a bit OCD? OCD otherwise known as obsessive compulsive disorder is a term that is readily applied these days to anyone who might otherwise have…

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Choosing a university course. Do parents know best?

Choosing a university course. Do parents know best?

Choosing a course to study at university is a big decision these days.  Especially now the fees are so high and jobs are not so easy to find.  Some teenagers are very clear about what they want to study.  They know what they love and they can already see themselves as a teacher, an engineer or a doctor.  For others it is quite confusing. Most parents mean well in trying to help but it is important to let your teenager follow their own dreams and aspirations. Recently I have been hearing a similar story in my therapy room. “I listened…

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