Confused.com

Confused.com

Are you feeling confused?  Do you have tangled thoughts, mind racing, mixed messages and bad communications. When communication is unclear this can result in confusion.  How many times have your listened to instructions and half way through them got lost in language.  People have different ways of expressing themselves.  Some get to the point very quickly whilst others talk around the houses and waffle a bit.   Others just don’t bother to give time or eye contact.  Sounding familiar? To avoid confusion think about the following: Make your own communication crystal clear and if appropriate follow up by an email…

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Peace in the Middle East

I have been thinking a lot in the past few days about all the problems in the Middle East and particularly the loss of lives that has occurred this week.   Seeing the fear in the faces of those affected and the grief  expressed by loss of lives on both sides fills me with great sadness and a feeling of helplessness too.  I try in my own way to think about peace for all and in conversations I attempt to reflect this.   I don’t know enough about the history and the politics of what has occurred over the last…

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Feeling alone?

A report out today has found a quarter of Londoners say they feel lonely some or all of the time.   I guess there are times when we might say that we have felt alone with no-one to talk to or share our thoughts with.  Two types of loneliness can be identified:  social loneliness and emotional loneliness.  With so many people using London as a transient base these days people don’t always have the time to get to know others and form social friendships.  Emotional loneliness occurs when people feel alone with their problems which can happen even when part…

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Creating good karma

I often hear the people using the word karma when someone or something bad has happened to them or in society.   It is thought of as a punishment to come for those that deserve it and it is sometimes easier to think that karma will get that person rather than us having to take some action to communicate the problem.  The problem with this is that if we are imaging all the bad things that will happen because of karma what we are in fact doing is creating our own bad karma. On a society level we might think…

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Sorry seems to be the hardest word

Sorry seems to be the hardest word

Do you find it difficult to say sorry?   Or perhaps you wait patiently and longingly to hear that word.  The power of an apology can make a huge difference in relationships between people.  But as Elton John so beautifully sang “Sorry seems to be the hardest word”. There are times when we don’t get it right.  We are moody, miserable or angry and we might take that out on someone we love, or anyone that happens to be in our way.  If we feel vulnerable we might attack other people or blame them unnecessarily.  These actions are unfair and…

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Do you keep being disappointed?

The people around us are like mirrors to our souls.  In general it is true to say that we get back what we give so its useful to look at own behaviours in relationships.  To be the best we can be.  However, there may be people in your lives who will periodically disappoint.  We feel hurt by their words and actions or in-actions.   We don’t understand why they behave in that way.  We can look for reasons but that doesn’t seem to help. Its so hard when we feel disappointed in this way.  I know there are people in my…

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Feeling helpless in the face of redundancy

Feeling helpless in the face of redundancy

Recently I have heard of so many people losing their jobs because of a company restructure.   Being called in and told that the company is going through changes and one of those is that your job is now redundant.  Surprise!!   Maybe not.   Perhaps you have seen this coming.  Other people in other departments have gone.  The company is now a third of the size it was two years ago.  Secret meetings appear to be happening all around you and that smarmy new guy that arrived 3 months ago is looking even smarmier. It doesn’t seem to make sense…

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